Living Out Loud
[Editor’s Note: Hello! It’s been a while since I’ve blogged and I’ve got a cool story to share – but it’s a little long. So, please allow yourself some extra time to fully take in this post – you’ll be glad you did!]
My confidence was shaken, then my faith restored…all within a matter of a few days.
Just as we were leaving to embark on a Midwest road trip to catch a few shows with my all-time favorite performer, Neil Diamond, I allowed some external voices to grab ahold of me. I let some things in that made me question what the heck I was doing, what I was spending my money on, what I was doing with my time, and how I was living my life.
Woah, I was shocked at how much power I gave to this external voice. Even though I’m 43, I still yearn for affirming approval from those important to me, ya know?
Normally a confident gal, Read more »
These past few weeks I have been experiencing a (very minor) health issue, and the symptoms have been puzzling. Two important people in my life reminded me to never underestimate the mind-body connection and that the symptoms could be the result of an emotional issue. Hmmm.
So this weekend, Bill started asking me questions about what the symptoms might be related to. After an entire evening of deep and meaningful conversation (nice to be married to a trained coach!), I got to the crux of a big issue for me. It was about the way I occasionally hold myself back in important situations and don’t play as ‘full-out’ as I’d like to or as I could. I don’t always fully shine my light, letting the world see – and have – all of me.
As you may have read before, this has been an issue for me throughout the years. I’ve had past counseling sessions, great coaching guidance, and most recently it came up Read more »
Next time you’re out and about, be sure to check out the May 2010 issue of our favorite magazine, Caribbean Travel + Life. An edited version of a previous Following Your Joy blog post is one of the features!
You may remember a blog favorite from last year: Just Another Day On The (Nude) Beach. It’s a great honeymoon story about the adventure with my hubby on a nude beach in St. Martin, almost 16 years ago! The entertaining tale certainly lives on…
It’s fun to see our story featured in a big-time magazine; the one and only publication we’ve been subscribing to for years! It keeps us in touch with what we love: the Caribbean and everything the region represents. Turquoise waters, laid-back vibe, soft white sand, palm trees blowing in the warm breeze, sun on the skin, lush landscape, groovy music, an abundance of time, simplicity, and friendly attitudes. Ahhh…
Are you a fan of the Caribbean? If so, what’s your favorite spot?
[Be sure to first read Is Front Row Asking Too Much?, Part I]
There wasn’t much time to bask in the afterglow from the concert the night before. This was a new day, and tickets needed to be scored! Previously, I said I wanted front row seats for this second of two Neil Diamond shows, and in the back of my mind I wondered how realistic that really was. And after such a fantastic experience the night before, could this now be asking too much?
But I held strong. Why not?
Expecting the best
Once again, there were no good seats available for the show that night and tickets on the broker websites were exorbitantly priced. As Bill headed out for work that morning, he pulled one of his Hawaiian shirts out of the closet and said, “I’m gonna wear this tonight. It’s my new ‘front row center’ shirt!” Have you heard that old adage: “Act as if”? Well, my trusting hubby was acting as if we would be sitting in the front row. What a great attitude to choose, and I figured I better adopt it as well. I had nothing to lose!
Our plan for the evening was to Read more »
We’ve all had those “defining moments” when we learned something so powerful, that our life literally changed right there, on-the-spot. This happened for me when Neil Diamond came here to Minneapolis in 2005 for two back-to-back concerts. It was then that I learned the power of being clear on what you want, asking for it out loud, and declaring it to the world.
A big Neil Diamond fan
Quick backdrop: My love of Neil started in the early 80’s, when getting tickets to concerts was a whole different deal. I skipped school one day in 8th grade, standing in line for tickets for eight hours! Through the years I’ve remained a loyal and faithful fan.
It’s been a fun constant in my life from the days of feathered hair and braces…to my wild college years…to maturing into adulthood…and to most recently hitting the big 4-0. Throughout it all, when Neil goes on tour, you can bet that I am there.
So on the day before the festivities back in ‘05, believe it or not, this huge fan (me) did not have tickets Read more »
Many of you who know Bill and me have heard this story before, and many of you have even graciously paid it forward and re-counted the legendary tale to friends; everyone enjoying a good laugh at our expense.
Through the years, we’ve had people who meet us for the first time say, “Oh! So you’re the couple who…” Yep, it’s us. So at your urging to share this story again—and because it definitely ties-in with following your joy—here it is in print.
Following our wedding day in 1994 we embarked on a honeymoon cruise to the Caribbean. The week of vacation was magnificent, and it was a wonderful way to start our new lives together, especially after all the fanfare of a big, traditional wedding.
On the cruise ship following our first day at sea, we attended a big meeting led by the Cruise Director telling us what to expect on our first port of call—the West Indian island of St. Maarten/St. Martin.
Getting “briefed” on the nude beach
“The island is half French and half Dutch,” he said, “And you may have heard about the nude beaches on the French side…” Read more »
One of the things I do in my work as a Professional Coach is help my clients clarify and “name” what it is that makes them come alive. And sometimes it can be a little elusive to identify, or define, specifically what that is. A good way can be to take the cues from those around you.
Feel-good music and concerts
For me, one of those things is music. The deal for me was sealed when my aunt left a message on our voice mail the other day. She was returning my call about the Chicago / Earth, Wind & Fire concert—I wanted to know how she liked it. And her message said, “The best part of the show was watching you and Bill through my binoculars dancing up a storm!” At first I was a little embarrassed. But then I realized that yep, that was just me, following my joy.
Then one of my clients emailed me the next day and said how she enjoyed our “show” up front! Okay, slightly embarrassed again, but what are ya gonna do? Also reminds me of the time that Bill and I were at a Neil Diamond concert in Sioux City, IA. Afterwards, one of the local radio station DJ’s waved us over outside the arena and said, Read more »
And to add to the mid-summer drama, the cicadas (you know, those insects that sound like a major power line buzzing) were engaged in a full-out blast.
If you don’t already know this about me, I’m a huge concert enthusiast. I LOVE classic rock and paying tribute to the legends that helped shape the world of music in the late 60’s and on through the 70’s. I’ve been going to shows since I was a kid and thoroughly enjoying it all along. When I met Bill, I was so happy that he was a rocker just like me (my mom always did say that he was the “male version” of me and vice versa). :)
On that hot summer day, we were so excited to see the band live once again. But this time it was different. This time we had front row seats. Read more »