Is Today Giving You Energy…or Draining Your Energy?

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Have you ever noticed how certain people and situations give you lots of energy, and you feel jazzed in their presence? And then there are other situations or personal interactions where afterwards, you feel completely zapped of energy and feel like doing nothing but collapsing in bed?

Interesting how that works! In my coaching, I encourage my clients to follow their energy. Meaning that when they feel a “call” toward something—whether it’s toward a person, an idea, a place, a project, or whatever—they should go to it!

Follow the aliveness. Follow the joy. Follow the call.

At the same time, when I hear my clients talking about an event that they feel like they “should” attend and there is complete flat-ness in their voice, I have them stop and check-in with what’s happening. It’s obvious to me that there is no energy there…and there’s also an important message for them in that feeling.

Just like everyone else, in my own life I routinely question whether or not something is “right” for me…whether it’s an RSVP for a certain event, taking on an extra project, or reading a particular book. It can be hard to know what the right answer is!

So I pay attention to my energy: Do I feel drawn or called to this thing? Or does my body sink when I think about it? Often I may not know why I feel drawn—or not drawn—to something, and I try not to analyze it. Things are what they are, and I aim to simply follow the energy.

There will always be people who are puzzled by why you do the things you do. And the truth is that we are all coming from our own perspective and no one can truly understand your situation but you. So trust those intuitive messages you receive and follow your energy. For me, life works best when I pay attention, listen, and go where I am called.

Ask yourself:

–What negatively drains my energy?

–What positively fuels my energy?

Begin to notice the people and situations you encounter and how you feel in their presence. Then make adjustments as necessary, as this will help you get clear on where to focus your attention. Begin to eliminate, or at least cut back on, the things that drain you. And of course, keep doing more of what fuels you.

Your energy is your most precious resource, and you are in charge of how you spend it.

What do you need to do differently to live a more joyful life? Be bold and tell the rest of us by leaving a comment below. You never know, you just might inspire someone else to make a new choice in their life!

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11 Responses to “Is Today Giving You Energy…or Draining Your Energy?”

  • What a great post! I learned how to do this five or six years ago, and am still refining it. There are definitely people and situations in my life that I know zap my energy, while others give me such a boost I'm flying high all day after seeing or talking with them.

    This is a tough one to say out loud for some reason, but I have certain family members who are so negative that I choose not to spend a lot of time with them (if any). I know they love me, and I love them, but I also love myself enough to know that when I spend time with someone out of guilt or pity, that's not really love (for either of us). We don't need to speak about it, either. Luckily in our family we err on the side of silence so I'm off the hook in that regard!

    In situations that I can't avoid, and that I think may zap my energy, I do two things:
    – In my mind I picture the white light surrounding me thickly, protecting me from negative energy; I also imagine my lower 3 chakras being covered with a black cloth so they don't absorb any negativity.
    – I take time beforehand to set an intention of how I want to feel when the situation is over. I envision everything going really well, and me feeling balanced and good the whole time. I then picture myself walking away from it feeling perfect — and 9 times out of 10, that's just what happens.

  • Liv says:

    Great reminders, Michelle! If anyone's interested in exploring this even deeper, two really good books on this are "Emotional Freedom" by Judith Orloff and "Your Destiny Swith" by Peggy McColl.

  • Hi Michelle!
    I live this one to a "T" and it has revolutionized my life. It's what allows me to be present; I can show up and be all of myself with those I am around.

    Unfortunately, there are still those situations and people that must be experienced, even when we know the negative energy results they normally yield. I like Megan's suggestions for covering our bottom 3 chakras and also for setting an intention for the experience beforehand. Very helpful!

    Great post, Michelle!

  • Pat Noren Enderson says:

    Michelle, again you hit the nail on the head. I am really noticing how this affects me in my new job compared to my last one where I was very unhappy. I've finally been given the trust and ability to do my work instead of being hindered by a micromanaging manager. Keep up the good work!

  • Chris Edgar says:

    Thanks for this. It seems so important to let go of what we believe is rational or "should" make us happy if we're actually seeking to enjoy life.

  • Tony says:

    Great post. It never ceases to amaze me how some people just make you buzz with energy, while others just drain you of energy. I love what you have to say, and the beauty and tranquility of the photo at the top of the page says it all.

  • Janice Kern says:

    It has taken good coaching to realize this about myself. What absolutely gives me energy is running. I leave the house and tell myself I am running away from everything. In a house of 4 little boys, one with autism, it is seriously tempting to actually run away but I always come back. And I come back as someone else. I have never come back crabby, lethargic, exhausted, drained, annoyed or half-empty. But I certainly have left the house that way a time or two.

  • Thank you to all for your heartfelt and insightful comments and thoughts! It seems that we can all feel a little more "normal" when someone else shares their struggles and how they deal with them. Thanks for that!

    And welcome to our new readers as well–delighted to have you here. :)

  • Shelly says:

    Michelle, I needed to read your blog today. To forget about analyzing why you are drawn or not drawn in my opinion is the most important message here. There is definitely a reason your gut instinct is there and it is powerful.

    Your blog made me look back. In hindsight my gut instinct has always been trying to tell me something even though at the time it seemed the wrong way to go. Right now my rational mind and gut are at odds with each other. After reading this I know which way I am going. Thank You.

  • Sharon says:

    hey Michelle! just reading some back posts…yes, I love this one…I need to do more work on this with myself…there are so many “emotional vampires” out there that just zap us……and for so long, I thought I had to endure that….to “be nice”….not! Thanks for the lesson :) love you Sharon xoxo

  • […] Lisa defines happiness at work as that “feeling of peace” that comes from knowing she’s focusing her time and energy on what fuels her, what makes her come alive. […]

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One of the great joys in my life is being involved with this blog! It’s a constant reminder for me to focus on the things that bring me joy. It also feels great to be sharing so many of these joys with you - in hopes that you, too, will find ways to focus on your own joyful experiences.

Here's to an abundance of joy in your life!

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