Minding my own business at home one evening last week, I got a totally unexpected call. “Hi, I’m an Eden Prairie police officer and I’m sitting here at the softball field with your husband.”
In the millisecond before he continued talking, my mind raced with thoughts of: “WHAT did Bill do?” I couldn’t help but think of all the wild and crazy college tales that have lived on through the years. Several scenarios rushed to mind: “Did he drink too much and trash the field?” “Did he climb the water tower and spray paint it purple?” I wracked my brain and wondered what on earth the police officer caught him doing.
“Your husband got hit in the face with a softball and he’s bleeding quite a bit. I’ll sit here with him until you can get here and take him to the hospital.”
That’s when the curveball came.
I moved fast. Not knowing what I would find when I got to the field, I talked out loud to myself and my team of angels on my drive and prepared. My friend, Maryanne O’Brien, founder of Live Dynamite, often signs her emails, “Expect the best.” I love that! And so I began this journey expecting the best in every situation: Expecting the best care, the best doctors, the best experience possible.
When I got to the field, the kind police officer handed Bill over to me, and what I saw didn’t surprise me. Despite the blood-soaked gauze held over his nose and blood spattered all over him, Bill was smiling. Yep, that’s my guy.
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The trip to the Emergency Room is behind us. This past week has been one of slowing down, intense focus, learning about different medications, and enjoying our beautiful Minnesota fall weather.
There are all kinds of additional details that ensued on the journey, but they’re not necessarily important here. What is important, though, are the reminders that came in loud and clear.
The first is gratitude. One of the first things Bill said was how grateful he was that the ball didn’t hit his eyes or mouth or anywhere else on his head. If you’re going to get hit in the face with a ball, square on the bridge of the nose seems to be the best bet! One of the doctors told us of his friend who got hit in the eye with a softball…and lost his vision in that eye. Hearing that one gave me the chills, as I sat next to Bill, knowing how fortunate he was.
Gratitude. We’ve been embracing it all along.
Second is expecting the best. How wonderful that every single doctor and nurse we’ve dealt with has been a pleasure. Each doctor visit and experience along the way has been top-notch. It feels so good to trust in that and to “expect” great care.
I recently saw a status update on Facebook by someone that said: “My day is going to suck.” And you know what? I bet it did.
Expect the best, and that’s what you’ll get. It’s nice to have a cheering section of friends and family along the way, too! Here’s one fun example.
Third is a positive attitude. Despite the pain and discomfort, my Bill is always smiling. Throughout the week, he’s still managed to treat me as if I’m the most important person in the world. He still makes me laugh and uses funny cartoon voices at home. A co-worker said if they hadn’t seen his black eyes or gash on his nose, they would have never known anything had happened.
Bill is a master at choosing a positive attitude. I’m always learning from him.
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My buddy is scheduled to have surgery this week to fix the broken nose. And of course we know and trust that all will be well.
Events, like this one, happen in our lives; they’re circumstances over which we have no control. What we end up experiencing – or our “outcome” – is directly related to how we choose to respond.
When something unexpected comes your way that doesn’t feel so good, will you choose to be upset, mad, or frustrated? Or will you choose to be grateful, appreciative, and peaceful? While I intellectually understand and teach this concept, this past week has certainly been an opportunity for me to fully put this stuff into practice!
One last interesting note: This weekend we had our satellite radio station on three separate times. And each time, we heard the song, “Miracles.” If you’re not familiar with the synchronistic significance of this song in our lives, you’ve got to check this out! A-ma-zing.
Life will throw you curveballs. Not necessarily as ‘in your face’ as Bill’s (hopefully not!), but those throws out of left-field will make their way to you, because, well – that’s just life.
So, be sure to pack these things in your toolkit:
–Expecting the Best
–A Positive Attitude
And…one of my guy friends (who shall go unnamed) also recommended I pack my “naughty nurse” outfit (assuming I have one), which is also probably not a bad idea. :)
Cheers to you in the game of life!
Author’s follow-up note: Bill’s surgery is behind him now and he had a speedy recovery and is doing great – whew!