Following your joy. It’s important to know what it is, specifically, that brings you joy…and then make sure to get more that in your life.
I’d also like to add another point of view–it was John Lennon who said: “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.” So true. We can spend so much time and energy meticulously planning and plotting out our days and our lives. And at the same time, we’ve got to be open to whatever might come our way. It may even be something that we’ve never dreamed of!
You really don’t want to miss those amazing little miracles that show up right in front of your eyes, especially when you’re somewhere else trying to plan for them or “make” them happen. You gotta be ready to catch them when they appear.
I’m really good at making a plan. In fact, I’d like to say that I excel at it. I’m learning, though, that there’s more—so much more—to life than “the plan.” And what I continuously remind myself of is to stay in the moment and go with the flow…where the good stuff is, regardless of the plan.
When things are easy and “flow”
One of my reminders came in a wonderful form today. My dad called to see if Bill and I wanted to join him out on his boat. We happened to be free, the weather was looking good, and all signs were a-go. Might not sound like a big deal, but between the three of us, we have a tough time matching schedules and timing; in fact it’s been a few years since the three of us hung out on the boat together.
Then on a fluke (or not), my mom called my dad this morning to say hi. Again, may not sound like a big deal, but my parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember, and most of those years were…well, let’s just say that they weren’t the best of friends.
So the stars aligned this morning and all parties were in a good mood, and my mom was invited to join us on the boat. Pretty cool for me! None of it was really “planned”; it was all just spur-of-the moment happenings.
It made me think about time and how precious the little things are. It’s easy for me to get lost in the things that “need to get done” at home, but I’m glad on this morning that I let those things go.
The joy of the moment
My dad picked us all up at a public dock, and after boarding the boat, we found a calm bay, turned the motor off, and let the boat float and take us wherever life intended for us to go. On this lovely sunny Sunday morning, the lake was quiet and the peacefulness enveloped us. We talked and laughed and reminisced, and then the joy for me exploded when Bill perceptively picked up on something very poignant and special about this unique moment. He turned to me and asked, “How does it feel to have your three biggest fans right here?”
Wow, I guess I hadn’t thought about it like that. But in that moment of quiet calm out on a lake of glass, I was reminded of how blessed I was. Right there in that boat, the two people who were responsible for giving me life, and the man who has become my best friend and life partner…all there floating along with me through life. What more could I ask for? Sometimes you just need reminders of those simple things in life to carry you.
I recently heard Michael J. Fox interviewed, and he said that each moment will never “be” again. There are no do-overs. To me, that meant to embrace and capture each moment, and relish it and honor it, as best you can.
So when you’re following your joy, yes—it’s certainly important to do some planning and know what fuels you and makes you come alive. And at the same time, it’s just as important to simply live your life, go with the flow, and pay attention to the little miracles that come your way.
After all, that “joy” just might be right there in the boat with you.